The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 113 - White Knuckles

When a man decides to become a man of sexual purity...

When a man decides to begin honoring God and his wife with the expression of his sexual gift...

When a man embraces a true understanding of "Wife Size Sex"...

And determines to only experience his orgasm with his wife...

He will inevitably enter a very difficult period of time that lies between the old person he used to be... and the new person he's trying to become.

This period of time is often defined by "WHITE KNUCKLES"... as he tries so hard to resist his old habits and patterns that often included porn and masturbation... and hold on to the new commitment of sexual purity that he has made to himself... to God... and to his wife.

Virtually every person who has ever sought to overcome an addiction... and every person who has entered a process of recovery...can relate to the concept of "WHITE KNUCKLES"... as they fight to metamorphose from the own cycle that was so unhealthy... to the new cycle that's healthier.

"WHITE KNUCKLES" speaks of our desperate attempt to resist the old "me" as I seek to be the new "me".

In this session Tony reveals why "WHITE KNUCKLES" typically will fail us... and shares what we can do... to make it through... to true and lasting change... when we feel like we're barely holding on!

Romans 7:15-25 

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 112 - What My Husband's Struggle With Porn Has Been Like For Me - Renee from Louisiana - Part 2

What's it like for a wife when her husband struggles with an addiction to pornography?

Greg and Renee have been married for 28 years... and for most of their marriage... Greg has struggled with an addition to pornography.

In these episodes (111 & 112) Renee shares with us glimpses of what this journey has been like for her... including...

* Her disappointment when her husband's addiction shattered the "Cinderella Story" she thought her marriage would be

* Her depression... anger... and rage

* Her believing that his addiction was her fault

* How his addiction provoked the trauma of her past

* Her sense of feeling "rejected" because she could never measure up to the body and beauty of porn stars

* How she learned to find hope and peace in God when she couldn't find it in her marriage

* How she learned to forgive her husband for the ways he had hurt her

Greg and Renee are still on their journey.  

Although they haven't arrived yet... and Greg still struggles at times with his addiction to porn... by God's grace he's doing better... and they're doing better together... than ever before!

This interview will help MEN understand some things from a female point of view... and encourage WOMEN as they hear the story of another woman's journey.

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 111 - What My Husband's Struggle With Porn Has Been Like For Me - Renee from Louisiana - Part 1

What's it like for a wife when her husband struggles with an addiction to pornography?

Greg and Renee have been married for 28 years... and for most of their marriage... Greg has struggled with an addition to pornography.

In these episodes (111 & 112) Renee shares with us glimpses of what this journey has been like for her... including...

* Her disappointment when her husband's addiction shattered the "Cinderella Story" she thought her marriage would be

* Her depression... anger... and rage

* Her believing that his addiction was her fault

* How his addiction provoked the trauma of her past

* Her sense of feeling "rejected" because she could never measure up to the body and beauty of porn stars

* How she learned to find hope and peace in God when she couldn't find it in her marriage

* How she learned to forgive her husband for the ways he had hurt her

Greg and Renee are still on their journey.  

Although they haven't arrived yet... and Greg still struggles at times with his addiction to porn... by God's grace he's doing better... and they're doing better together... than ever before!

This interview will help MEN understand some things from a female point of view... and encourage WOMEN as they hear the story of another woman's journey.

 

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 110 - Temptation Preparation - Part 3

What would you do if you somehow knew a thief was coming in the near future to break into you home with the intention to perpetrate harm upon you and your family?

* You would probably be concerned about the situation. 

* You would probably be on guard... watching and waiting for the imminent attack that you know is coming.

* You would probably try to prepare in advance of the attack... so that when it happened you could immediately respond and defend yourself accordingly.

Yet so many Christian men have absolutely no plan whatsoever to handle the perpetual attacks of temptation that they know they'll be facing on a very regular basis.

In these three episodes (108-110) Tony shares 8 principles of temptation... and 10 practical ways men can be prepared to respond... so they're not caught off guard.. and they immediately know what to do in the face of temptation.

You can learn to control temptation instead of being controlled by temptation!

In this episode Tony shares 6 more ideas that will prepare you to respond to temptation in a way that renders it powerless against you. 

I Peter 5:8

Proverbs 22:3

Proverbs 7:6-10

James 1:14-15

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 109 - Temptation Preparation - Part 2

What would you do if you somehow knew a thief was coming in the near future to break into you home with the intention to perpetrate harm upon you and your family?

* You would probably be concerned about the situation. 

* You would probably be on guard... watching and waiting for the imminent attack that you know is coming.

* You would probably try to prepare in advance of the attack... so that when it happened you could immediately respond and defend yourself accordingly.

Yet so many Christian men have absolutely no plan whatsoever to handle the perpetual attacks of temptation that they know they'll be facing on a very regular basis.

In these three episodes (108-110) Tony shares 8 principles of temptation... and 10 practical ways men can be prepared to respond... so they're not caught off guard.. and they immediately know what to do in the face of temptation.

You can learn to control temptation instead of being controlled by temptation!

In this episode Tony shares the first 4 practical ways to respond to temptation.

I Peter 5:8

Proverbs 22:3

Proverbs 7:6-10

James 1:14-15

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 108 - Temptation Preparation - Part 1

What would you do if you somehow knew a thief was coming in the near future to break into you home with the intention to perpetrate harm upon you and your family?

* You would probably be concerned about the situation. 

* You would probably be on guard... watching and waiting for the imminent attack that you know is coming.

* You would probably try to prepare in advance of the attack... so that when it happened you could immediately respond and defend yourself accordingly.

Yet so many Christian men have absolutely no plan whatsoever to handle the perpetual attacks of temptation that they know they'll be facing on a very regular basis.

In these three episodes (108-110) Tony shares 8 principles of temptation... and 10 practical ways men can be prepared to respond... so they're not caught off guard.. and they immediately know what to do in the face of temptation.

You can learn to control temptation instead of being controlled by temptation!

In this episode Tony shares the 8 principles of temptation.

I Peter 5:8

Proverbs 22:3

Proverbs 7:6-10

James 1:14-15

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 107 - Men, Women and Sex with Shaunti Feldhahn - Part 2

Shaunti Feldhahn is a ground breaking social researcher, best selling author, and popular speaker.

After graduating from Harvard University, Shaunti worked on Wall Street until she began her extensive research on the topic of men... almost on accident!

Shanty's written 16 books that have been published in 24 languages and sold over 2 million copies world wide.

These books include...

For Women Only... What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Shaunti is a popular media commentator, and her findings have been featured in media as diverse as...

The Today Show

Focus On The Family

The New York Times

MomLife Today

Cosmopolitan Magazine

Family Life Radio

Shaunti has done extensive research on the topics of MEN... WOMEN... and SEX... and has many intriguing and amazing things to share!

You can find more information about Shanty's life and work at...

Shaunti.com

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 106 - Men, Women and Sex with Shaunti Feldhahn - Part 1

Shaunti Feldhahn is a ground breaking social researcher, best selling author, and popular speaker.

After graduating from Harvard University, Shaunti worked on Wall Street until she began her extensive research on the topic of men... almost on accident!

Shaunti has written 16 books that have been published in 24 languages and sold over 2 million copies world wide.

These books include...

For Women Only... What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Shaunti is a popular media commentator, and her findings have been featured in media as diverse as...

The Today Show

Focus On The Family

The New York Times

MomLife Today

Cosmopolitan Magazine

Family Life Radio

Shaunti has done extensive research on the topics of MEN... WOMEN... and SEX... and has many intriguing and amazing things to share!

You can find more information about Shanty's life and work at...

Shaunti.com

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 105 - Surrendering The Higher Ground

As we all know... there is typically a higher sexed partner and a lower sexed partner in every marriage.

This reality often leads to hurt... confusion... misunderstanding... and resentment within the context of the marriage.

THIS EPISODE IS INTENDED PRIMARILY FOR THE LOWER SEXED PARTNER IN THE MARRIAGE.

In this episode Tony explores several nuances of the tension that's created when partners have differing sexual appetites... including...

* How the lower sexed partner automatically... by default... assumes control of the sexual frequency of the relationship... whether they want to or not.

* How the lower sexed partner has the position of the "higher ground" when it comes to sex in the relationship.

* How the lower sexed partner... in a sense... has more work to do in order to create sexual equilibrium in the relationship.

* Why the lower sexed partner is a "really big person" if they're willing to move toward their partner sexually.

Although these challenges can be significant... they are not insurmountable... and with God's help it's possible for a couple to "close the gap" that's existed between them sexually... as they become healthier than they've ever been before.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

 

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 104 - Nate Larkin and The Samson Society - Part 3

Nate Larkin's wife caught him... all alone... in his office... watching porn in the middle of the night.

They had a long talk that night... and Nate's wife forgave him.

But then... several days later... she found a condom on the bathroom floor of their home that Nate couldn't quite explain.

That's when Nate's wife sat him on the edge of their bed... and said the words that would change his life.

I still love you... but I don't like you.

I don't trust you.

I don't respect you... and I don't think you can ever change.

Nate Larkin had gone to seminary... studied for the ministry... pastored a church... and struggled deeply for many years with his secret sex addiction.

When his wife spoke those fateful words to him... he knew he had to change because he was about to loose everything that meant the most to him in life.

It was only then Nate found his way to a secular recovery group... and slowly began to learn the ideas and concepts that would genuinely change his heart... his life... his marriage... and even the expression of his sexual gift.

In these 3 episodes (102-104) Nate shares the story of his amazing journey from sexual bondage and addiction to sexual healing and freedom. 

It's an amazing story... and you will be blessed!

Nate Larkin is an author, speaker, and founder of The Samson Society - a ministry that facilitates authentic mens groups around the country toward the purpose of sexual healing and freedom.

samsonsociety.com

I Am Second

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 103 - Nate Larkin and The Samson Society - Part 2

Nate Larkin's wife caught him... all alone... in his office... watching porn in the middle of the night.

They had a long talk that night... and Nate's wife forgave him.

But then... several days later... she found a condom on the bathroom floor of their home that Nate couldn't quite explain.

That's when Nate's wife sat him on the edge of their bed... and said the words that would change his life.

I still love you... but I don't like you.

I don't trust you.

I don't respect you... and I don't think you can ever change.

Nate Larkin had gone to seminary... studied for the ministry... pastored a church... and struggled deeply for many years with his secret sex addiction.

When his wife spoke those fateful words to him... he knew he had to change because he was about to loose everything that meant the most to him in life.

It was only then Nate found his way to a secular recovery group... and slowly began to learn the ideas and concepts that would genuinely change his heart... his life... his marriage... and even the expression of his sexual gift.

In these 3 episodes (102-104) Nate shares the story of his amazing journey from sexual bondage and addiction to sexual healing and freedom. 

It's an amazing story... and you will be blessed!

Nate Larkin is an author, speaker, and founder of The Samson Society - a ministry that facilitates authentic mens groups around the country toward the purpose of sexual healing and freedom.

samsonsociety.com

I Am Second

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 102 - Nate Larkin and The Samson Society - Part 1

Nate Larkin's wife caught him... all alone... in his office... watching porn in the middle of the night.

They had a long talk that night... and Nate's wife forgave him.

But then... several days later... she found a condom on the bathroom floor of their home that Nate couldn't quite explain.

That's when Nate's wife sat him on the edge of their bed... and said the words that would change his life.

I still love you... but I don't like you.

I don't trust you.

I don't respect you... and I don't think you can ever change.

Nate Larkin had gone to seminary... studied for the ministry... pastored a church... and struggled deeply for many years with his secret sex addiction.

When his wife spoke those fateful words to him... he knew he had to change because he was about to loose everything that meant the most to him in life.

It was only then Nate found his way to a secular recovery group... and slowly began to learn the ideas and concepts that would genuinely change his heart... his life... his marriage... and even the expression of his sexual gift.

In these 3 episodes (102-104) Nate shares the story of his amazing journey from sexual bondage and addiction to sexual healing and freedom. 

It's an amazing story... and you will be blessed!

Nate Larkin is an author, speaker, and founder of The Samson Society - a ministry that facilitates authentic mens groups around the country toward the purpose of sexual healing and freedom.

samsonsociety.com

I Am Second

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 101 - The Deception of Sexual Sin - Part 4

Men often express themselves through a variety of clandestine sexual exploits such as...

* Internet Pornography

* Chat Rooms

* Cyber Sex

* 1-900 Numbers

* Strip Clubs

* Sexualized Massage

* Prostitutes

* Affairs

* And so forth and so on.

Because most men are engaging in these activities "secretly"... they often assume they're getting away with it... and that nobody will ever know.

Men often think to themselves...

What can it hurt if nobody knows what I'm doing?

Unfortunately... what these men don't realize is that it's impossible to enjoy the benefits of sexual sin without paying the corresponding price.

Don't be deceived.

* If you throw a rock in a pond... there will be a splash!

* If you jump in a lake... you will get wet!

* If you indulge in sexual sin... you will pay a price!

In this series of four episodes (98-101) Tony shares 13 principles as he explores "The Deception of Sexual Sin".

7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.  A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  Galatians 6:7-8

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 100 - The Deception of Sexual Sin - Part 3

Men often express themselves through a variety of clandestine sexual exploits such as...

* Internet Pornography

* Chat Rooms

* Cyber Sex

* 1-900 Numbers

* Strip Clubs

* Sexualized Massage

* Prostitutes

* Affairs

* And so forth and so on.

Because most men are engaging in these activities "secretly"... they often assume they're getting away with it... and that nobody will ever know.

Men often think to themselves...

What can it hurt if nobody knows what I'm doing?

Unfortunately... what these men don't realize is that it's impossible to enjoy the benefits of sexual sin without paying the corresponding price.

Don't be deceived.

* If you throw a rock in a pond... there will be a splash!

* If you jump in a lake... you will get wet!

* If you indulge in sexual sin... you will pay a price!

In this series of four episodes (98-101) Tony shares 13 principles as he explores "The Deception of Sexual Sin".

7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.  A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  Galatians 6:7-8

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 99 - The Deception of Sexual Sin - Part 2

Men often express themselves through a variety of clandestine sexual exploits such as...

* Internet Pornography

* Chat Rooms

* Cyber Sex

* 1-900 Numbers

* Strip Clubs

* Sexualized Massage

* Prostitutes

* Affairs

* And so forth and so on.

Because most men are engaging in these activities "secretly"... they often assume they're getting away with it... and that nobody will ever know.

Men often think to themselves...

What can it hurt if nobody knows what I'm doing?

Unfortunately... what these men don't realize is that it's impossible to enjoy the benefits of sexual sin without paying the corresponding price.

Don't be deceived.

* If you throw a rock in a pond... there will be a splash!

* If you jump in a lake... you will get wet!

* If you indulge in sexual sin... you will pay a price!

In this series of four episodes (98-101) Tony shares 13 principles as he explores "The Deception of Sexual Sin".

7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.  A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  Galatians 6:7-8

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 98 - The Deception of Sexual Sin - Part 1

Men often express themselves through a variety of clandestine sexual exploits such as...

* Internet Pornography

* Chat Rooms

* Cyber Sex

* 1-900 Numbers

* Strip Clubs

* Sexualized Massage

* Prostitutes

* Affairs

* And so forth and so on.

Because most men are engaging in these activities "secretly"... they often assume they're getting away with it... and that nobody will ever know.

Men often think to themselves...

What can it hurt if nobody knows what I'm doing?

Unfortunately... what these men don't realize is that it's impossible to enjoy the benefits of sexual sin without paying the corresponding price.

Don't be deceived.

* If you throw a rock in a pond... there will be a splash!

* If you jump in a lake... you will get wet!

* If you indulge in sexual sin... you will pay a price!

In this series of four episodes (98-101) Tony shares 13 principles as he explores "The Deception of Sexual Sin".

7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.  A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  Galatians 6:7-8

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 97 - Unhealthy Sex Within Marriage - Part 3

In this series of episodes (95 - 97) Tony examines the concept of UNHEALTHY SEX within marriage.

Although God created sex...

And God blesses sex within the context of marriage...

It doesn't mean that all the sex that happens in marriage is necessarily healthy sex.

Did you know that sometimes the way married couples are functioning sexually within their marriage is very unhealthy?

In this series Tony shares...

* 4 Principles about sex in general...

* 4 Principles about UNHEALTHILY SEX specifically...

* And at least 8 examples of what UNHEALTHY SEX in marriage frequently looks like.

If you know the sex in your marriage is not as healthy as it could be... or should be... BE ENCOURAGED!

The GOOD NEWS is that God's love... grace... and mercy are very powerful... and as we walk the redemptive path God has intended for us... the unhealthy sex in our marriage can become healthier than it's ever been before!

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 96 - Unhealthy Sex Within Marriage - Part 2

In this series of episodes (95 - 97) Tony examines the concept of UNHEALTHY SEX within marriage.

Although God created sex...

And God blesses sex within the context of marriage...

It doesn't mean that all the sex that happens in marriage is necessarily healthy sex.

Did you know that sometimes the way married couples are functioning sexually within their marriage is very unhealthy?

In this series Tony shares...

* 4 Principles about sex in general...

* 4 Principles about UNHEALTHILY SEX specifically...

* And at least 8 examples of what UNHEALTHY SEX in marriage frequently looks like.

If you know the sex in your marriage is not as healthy as it could be... or should be... BE ENCOURAGED!

The GOOD NEWS is that God's love... grace... and mercy are very powerful... and as we walk the redemptive path God has intended for us... the unhealthy sex in our marriage can become healthier than it's ever been before!

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 95 - Unhealthy Sex Within Marriage - Part 1

In this series of episodes (95 - 97) Tony examines the concept of UNHEALTHY SEX within marriage.

Although God created sex...

And God blesses sex within the context of marriage...

It doesn't mean that all the sex that happens in marriage is necessarily healthy sex.

Did you know that sometimes the way married couples are functioning sexually within their marriage is very unhealthy?

In this series Tony shares...

* 4 Principles about sex in general...

* 4 Principles about UNHEALTHILY SEX specifically...

* And at least 8 examples of what UNHEALTHY SEX in marriage frequently looks like.

If you know the sex in your marriage is not as healthy as it could be... or should be... BE ENCOURAGED!

The GOOD NEWS is that God's love... grace... and mercy are very powerful... and as we walk the redemptive path God has intended for us... the unhealthy sex in our marriage can become healthier than it's ever been before!

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The Power of Purity Podcast, Episode 94 - Breaking The Power of Pornography with Dr. Doug Weiss - Part 2

On this episode Tony's special guest is Dr. Doug Weiss, Ph.D.

Dr. Doug is a Licensed Psychologist and the Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He's also the President of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT).  Among many other accomplishments Dr. Doug...

* Has appeared on several national talk shows including Oprah, Dr. Phil, Good Morning America, and 20/20.

* Has published more than 20 books on addiction recovery as well      as many books and DVDs for marriage and youth.

* Has overcome his own sexual addiction and has been successfully sober for more than 21 years.

 In this episode Dr. Doug offers practical advice that will help and encourage men on their journey of purity.

drdougweiss.com

drdougweiss.org

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